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Top 6 Rules to Proposing
It’s your first big step as a future husband, and many a man will say it’s the toughest: proposing. Nothing fills a prospective groom with more trepidation than pulling off the proposal. Here are some pointers to help you figure out how to create a moment that will make her heart leap with delight. Although these suggestions are directed towards you guys out there, these can also be for those brides who prefer to pop the question themselves, so ladies, feel free to use these ideas if you’re doing the asking.
MAKE IT A SURPRISE… BUT NOT TOO MUCH OF A SURPRISE.
If the two of you have been committed to one another for some period of time, have declared your love for one another, have discussed marriage and your future together, and are in agreement on all the big points, you probably have a green light to move forward.
AND DON’T WAIT TOO LONG TO DO IT.
The fear of the proposal itself is what keeps some guys from taking that step. If she loves you, she’d rather have a tardy proposal than none at all, but timing still counts.
CREATE THE PROPOSAL OF HER DREAMS… NOT YOURS.
This is your moment to show her how much you love her, how well you understand her, and how deeply you care about her happiness. With that in mind, create a proposal that will make her heart sing, not one that will make your buddies think you’re cool. Unless she’s the world’s biggest Bruins fan, proposing during halftime of the Stanley Cup is probably not the way to go. If she wants to marry you, she may have been dropping hints about what she thinks is a great proposal. Pay attention to what she says and you’re likely to get clues as to what she would love.
PICK A MEMORABLE LOCATION.
A great location for the proposal can make all the difference. But that doesn’t mean you have to climb a mountain, rent a penthouse, or jet to the islands. A memorable location can be any place of significance to the two of you: the burger joint where you went on your first date; the front porch of her parent’s house; at home, by candlelight, over a special dinner you prepared.
CONSIDER THE TIME OF DAY.
There’s no right or wrong time of day to propose. But you might want to consider what time of day will set the best mood. For some couples, first thing in the morning is perfect. For others, it isn’t right unless the proposal is delivered by starlight. Sunset is a favorite too. Whatever your preference, consider that there’s a strong possibility that she’ll want to make a half dozen phone calls to family and friends, sharing the exciting news.
UNLESS YOU’RE SURE SHE’D LIKE AN AUDIENCE, KEEP IT PRIVATE.
For the woman who is a huge movie fan, proposing via a homemade video run before the Friday night showing of that hit new epic romance may be perfect. But most women prefer a private or semi-private proposal. You’re both more likely to be candid and genuinely expressive if you aren’t surrounded by onlookers. Consider where she falls on the privacy scale and plan your proposal accordingly.